Bonnie Tobey, R.I.P.

Hola, readers and followers,

I’ve (and we) have been absent for a least a couple of weeks. Please pardon me. If you read the rest of this post you will know why. The post was written by Bonnie’s daughters. I will write a memorial here sometime soon.

Bonnie Lynn Tobey, born November 17, 1953, returned home with a grateful heart on February 17, 2020 after a life filled with countless blessings, the greatest being her beloved and loving family.  Bonnie was a Home-Health and Hospice nurse for 43 years, certified Hatha Yoga instructor, proud and excellent parent with Jim Johnson to their three daughters Laila Bernhardt, Hannah Johnson, and Paula Johnson Bowers, daughter of Marjorie and Stephen Tobey, doting older sister to Stephen Tobey Jr., Richard Tobey, and Julie Ratcliffe, partner to Robert Rutter, delighted Oma to eight grandchildren, and loving friend to more people than can be named here.

Bonnie’s life was characterized by service to others – though she claimed to be very selfish because she “enjoyed helping people so much”. “I do it all for me,” she was heard to say on more than one occasion, and Bonnie’s dedication to following her own heart and boldly marching to the beat of her own drum was an inspiration to all who knew her.

In her retirement from nursing, she enjoyed travelling, spending time with family, voraciously reading, and lively Words With Friends rivalries. Her final weeks were spent at her daughter’s home, surrounded by family.  She was peaceful and gave the instructions: “Don’t cry for me too much. I have lived the most wonderful life.”

A celebration of Bonnie’s life will be hosted by her family on Washington Island, Wisconsin on August 15th, 2020.

Bonnie’s memory lives on in all who knew her: her friends, family, children and grandchildren.  Any time you do something daring for the greater good and for love, you honor her rebellious spirit. Any time you answer the call of a person in need and lend a listening ear, you live from her own generous heart.

We are all so blessed to have known her. 💖🕉💖

3 thoughts on “Bonnie Tobey, R.I.P.”

  1. Bob, Margi and all her family,
    I have not ever known a more pleasant person than Bonnie. She didn’t whine to us, her Mexican ex-pat friends. Even when it got to be tough going, she just waved the pain away.
    The last two times I saw her, we were in restaurants. Such fun celebrating her 65th birthday at Palapa Don Juan, in Chapala, MX.
    We were so blessed to count her as a friend. She’s shining down on us.

  2. Hola Amigo. Condolences from Leakey, TX, USA. Glad you are in good health AND have wonderful memories.

    At eighty five years of age I feel very blessed to have had a good first wife for 25 years before her death and an even better one the past 43 years. Old thoughts still surface occasionally however she is no longer in the pain of this life. Our grandson and I went to Chapala ten years ago to visit an organic farm run by two ladies from Canada.

    Stay happy, healthy and live life to its fullest. Jaime

    Thanks, Jamie. I hope I can make 85 too!

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